During scheduled executions of the purposes of life, whatever, it requires every time a commitment for maintaing an irresistible toughness.
It has to have an element of ruthlessness, purely masculine in nature.
This particular side of one's strength of character is applicable to convincingly discipline and raise one's own competence only and is never applicable upon somebody else, whoever. The latter propensity is purely accident prone and disastrous.
On the other hand, no transformation in real life is a game of soft toyes, i.e. those who, before duties, can't arrest their habit of extending compassion to themselves, can never attain required agility and perfection to defeat time and become a master executive of serial successes.
Self indulgence delivers imbeciles only, at the maximum, while toughness is seriously needed in life, purely for internal applications and nothing else.